It is said that when your father dies then advise (nasiha) for you has died with him; and when your brother dies then part of your blessings has died with him; and when your mother dies then part of your light (nur) has been put out; and when your sister dies then part of your smile would be lost; and when your close friend dies then your eyes have gone blind. Life is very short and should not be wasted on grudges, envy, hatred and breaking family ties. Smile with people, lower your wing and do your very best to uplift those around you.