After you reflect, it is important that you have a positive mindset about your reflections, even if what happened was extremely hurtful and negative. A negative mindset cannot create a positive outcome. Positive mindset is one thing, but you will not get any change by thoughts alone. The universe does not respond on what you “think” or who you “pretend” to be. The universe response by the vibration and energy you give off. Yes, you must have a positive mindset, but you also must have a positive vibration to create change in your reality and you life.