wish I could just tell everyone. I wish being me was normal, or if not normal, then accepted. I wish I didn’t have to hide all these thoughts. I wish I didn’t have to be alone with this, to worry that I’ll always be alone. Maybe that’s the worst thing about being intersex. That I can’t tell anyone. I don’t want to be alone anymore.”― Abigail Tarttelin, Golden Boy

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As I realise that I am going to be intersex my whole life. Years and years and decades, maybe for seventy years, I’ll be like this. And, unless I find someone who doesn’t mind having sex with me, I’m going to be alone all that time. I’ll probably be alone all that time. Think. How difficult it is for people to find someone they love, who likes the same things as them, who has the same values, who wants the same things out of life, and then imagine adding to that the fact that they not only have to be OK with having sex with a hermaphrodite, they have to like it.Without being a totally weird pervert, I add to myself.”― Abigail Tarttelin, Golden Boy

I wonder if he was scared. Not scared to die, but scared to live. I wonder if he thought no one would ever love him. He thought the idea of him being intersex put me off. I tried to tell him I couldn’t care less, but I guess I didn’t try hard enough. I wonder if he was scared of it getting out, of people knowing.”― Abigail Tarttelin, Golden Boy

The plea to hold off on surgery is based on the belief that sex assignment is a cultural pressure, not a biological one. Being intersex, Chase said, shouldn't be likened to being malformed or abnormal or freakish, and so surgical remedy shouldn't be the first thing doctors recommend.”― Amy Ellis Nutt, Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family

The system didn’t want to say that I’m intersex. That I’m not female or male. The doctors wanted to choose a gender for me and then make my body agree with their ideas about who I should be.”― Pidgeon Pagonis, Nobody Needs to Know: A Memoi

This is a problem because as we've established, not everyone meet society's requirements for being "male" or "female". Being repeatedly forced to misidentify their sex and/or rarely being acknowledged, can cause intersex people to feel isolated, invalid, and erased.”― Ashley Mardell, The ABC's of LGBT+

It's an arbitrary thing if you're born with an XX or XY chromosome, but it can determine your experience of the world. It's about whether you are physically intimidating vs. being physically intimidated. It determines whether you are the one to take an active role in sex and society.”― Abigail Tarttelin

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