1. Your true Self cannot be found. For it is not lost. What's hiding is no different from what's seeking it. This is the end of hide-and-seek.

Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.

"Facts are not science - as the dictionary is not literature."~ Martin H. Fischer

So here's the thing: No one can and will ever own you. Anyone who tries to do so will never be free. So how can someone, who's birthright is freedom, ever be abandoned? The only thing that needs to be abandoned is the illusion that your responsibility extends beyond yourself — because of your attachment to control. Control and freedom cannot coexit. They are mutually exclusive. You're either free or trapped by your own illusion.

And, just as it only takes a moment to die, it only takes a moment to live. You just close your eyes and let every futile fear slip away. And then, in this new state, free from fear, you ask yourself: who am I? If I could live without doubt what would I do? If I could be kind without the fear of being fucked over? If I could love without fear of being hurt? If I could taste the sweetness of today without thinking of how I will miss that taste tomorrow? If I could not fear the passing of time and the people it will steal? Yes. What would I do? Who would I care for? What battle would I fight? Which paths would I step down? What joys would I allow myself? What internal mysteries would I solve? How, in short, would I live?

You can dwell on past pains, or use them as stepping stones towards strength and wisdom.

Let's Keep God Out of It